Monday, January 10, 2011

Love.....Is It ??

Love.....Is It ?? 


"For one human being to love another is perhaps the most difficult of our tasks; the ultimate, the last test and proof; the work for which all other work is but preparation."

~ Rainer Maria Rilke


Off lately my thoughts seem to revolve around love, yes love nothing new yet it is! I've been coming across several magazines and articles and they all seem to concern about relationships and how...How to make a woman fall in love with you and vice-versa and some other relating to this matter! And then one fine day just out of the blue or after just one meeting you pronounce "This is the one".  

Well quite a time since I mused over this subject, as I literally had drowned myself in melancholy and left no place for love in my life; well don't know if this is entirely true or just another fiction of my mind that it has cooked up to not accept the harsh realities of life or otherwise. Since all I do is that and not let out the true things that are hidden deep within, with this one I just hope to know myself more. I guess I should stop rambling though I know its all haywire and vague but that's the way it is, let me just begin before you run away.

I wonder really wonder now-a-days if, most people out here have any damn idea what love really means? Or feel its endless depth and flights of infinite passion. I am no one to comment on this fact, because I fear believing in love or rather I fear accepting love out loud, reasons still unknown to me but what I do know, believe and truly feel is that love is more of emotions and understanding. Some of my friends might be shocked reading this as just two days back I was fighting with myself over the existence of love and doubting it to the fullest when my heart knew love does exist and hence this post, coming back to where I was. In an age of  instant gratification and casual sex and one night stands or rather just a casual fling where love is more about physical presence, gifts and constant conversing with each other rather than emotional and a spiritual connect, would they accept years of separation and hardships, minimal meeting...let alone conversing with each other and just a faint chance of being united? Not to mention there are people who endure all this but it's quite rare, ain't it? 

The recent trend being "Break k Baad" or rather "Move On" (Fast Track :D) be a better option? Asked a friend some days back to whom I didn't talk for long..."How is it between you and your boyfriend?" The instant answer that popped up was, Ah! We broke up some 2 months back....when 2 months back she claimed He is the One...my-o-my !! And when the subject of conversation is me...my friends remark; forget him, move on you'll meet someone else and so on......What I don't get is, how do you stop loving someone so damn fast? If, my friends if at all read this they're gonna bash me up, though I know they won't read as most of the times they find my write ups esp. the ones on Love to be ludicrous as they feel I don't believe a word of what I write and all...and maybe some might even stop talking to me saying, you think we are like this? This is our view on love? but hello I'm just saying in general nothing personal. But keeping that apart where was I? yep, Do these people really know what love is, the sacrifice and the pains it invariably demands or the passion and zeal that keeps you trudging till the end? Maybe I'm sounding ludicrous to some but then even I agree on this that when love is painful and abusive its advisable to move away but just minor disagreements and not giving time or freedom... no freedom is not the correct word say just the slight signs of troubles and the relationship is snapped. "Forever" is mere weeks or months!

And that is the very reason my confusion and fear for love takes birth, nevertheless I love and that too wholeheartedly though it remains unrequited! Call me mad or just a person who is stalking someone and not truly loving and caring or label my love as infatuation or anything else as a matter of fact, but I can't deny my love though it means just silently loving knowing that person will maybe never reciprocate coz, I know and believe that there will hardly be anyone will truly understand me and my love and the extent of my love and without knowing just label it call me whimsical and what not...but does it matter? No, doesn't matter anymore as I'm tired of fighting and now I just want to lead myself to where my love and my destiny takes me. On an ending note I'm reminded of the words by Jimmie Davis and Charles Mitchell, 

"You are my sunshine,
My only sunshine....
You make me happy,
When the skies are Grey;
You'll never know dear
How much I love you,
Please don't take my sunshine away!"

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-Fatima
       

26 comments:

  1. Fatima.. Love.. such a simple and complicated topic. the more you feel you have understood it, the more extensive and deeper it is.. and you feel.. you have not even started to understand wht that emotion is.. Its all about feeling, yet when you want to weave it into words.. we don't understand from where to begin.. how to begin and most importantly... we ponder.. is Love the feeling or emotion, that we understand.. or is it beyond words....

    Anyway.. beautifully written

    Divya.

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  2. Awesome Write....simple and elegant way of usage of english...

    Love is all about emotions and feelings. From my Past relations i understood love is an understanding between two minds...not hearts

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  3. Hey honey. Sorry wasn't able to talk to you about that topic, but i am glad you didn't give up writing because of plagiarism.. And you did the right thing. This issue isn't worth the sacrifice. :)
    and about this.. I don't understand love. :(

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  4. Hey, Hi
    well, this post is so much like your state of mind...love, not in love, understand, dont understand, will i, wont i....there is just turbulence...it doesnt matter what is or what isnt...life still goes on...detach yourself...let the mind be calm, only then the answers would be clear...
    i wouldnt say anything on the writing coz more than a post, its a reflection of the conflict of emotions in you...

    Regards,
    The Silhouette...

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  5. Hi Fatima,

    Nice thought Provoking post over one of the most complex word "Love".
    Well , Love is very vast and it changes it course accordingly on life's journey.
    I would say according to my experience that "Love is the connection of Rhythmic aura of spontaneous emission of positive vibes in the crusades of life toward and around it ,though it may elude you at times , just like a butterfly, but comes to you when you least expect it."
    So give time to love take its course in your life , you will happen to you before you knowing it.
    Love happens evolves slowly and gradually. Other things like fling , one night stand etc are the lust ..those who goes with these things are just ..deviated from real path..
    There is no confusion in Love its always clear , having respect ,trust and faith as the most precious Gems.
    And when we are in Love its makes us more Human..and connect us with other people around more easily to have a greater bond of friendship.
    Love is not lost ..its always there ..its just we stopped chasing it to ..make it knock our door.

    Overall a Nice ..read.

    Take care.
    Keep smiling :)

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  6. dear dear fatima...1st of all didnt expct somethin like this can come 4m u...so damn factual....u can actually relate to everythin n see how true it is...n the mentions of ur frnds relation prose...well i keep questionin myslf the samethin always...n well u defintly know tat.:P....perfct words...lovely read...:)

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  7. @ Divya: Yep di you said so right..Love is the most complicated thing that exist on this earth..no matter how much we wanna convey it words fall short..

    Glad you liked it and understood it :)

    Take Care,
    Fatima

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  8. @ justanotherdot: Well thanks a lot for visiting my blog and even commented on it.

    First off yeah I used quite simple English in this one compared to any other post of mine, coz this was just a reflection of my ideas and I felt its better if its simple!

    I don't agree much on your views, agreed mind does play a role yet heart plays a more significant role...your heart knows things which your mind can't even reason out and for me love is with heart more than mind.

    Glad you stopped by and gave in your views and its true everyone has different views :)

    Take Care,
    Fatima

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  9. @ Deepika: Hey it's alright if we weren't able to talk there is ample of time when we can talk about that issue I guess. About plagiarism ah..to be true I had deleted my blog and then after thinking some more I finally restored my blog, I'm still apprehensive though my work is copyrighted....but yeah I couldn't stop writing due to it, deleting my blog and giving up my writing are two different things :)

    About love...it was not much about love but my views on it, and I don't believe this is coming from you that you don't understand love I've read such beautiful poems by you and the underlying meaning is love at times :)

    Thanks and glad you took time out to read this post and give your valuable comments :)

    Take Care,
    Fatima

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  10. @ The Silhouette: You hit the nail directly at the point...till now your comment seems to be the most apt comment I've received !

    Yep, your right its not much about the post, its about me and my inner conflict that has come out in the open. Everything is just haywire and I'm split in between my own emotions, there have been days when I've felt like crying and I'm unable to and it is at that moment that I start questioning myself and my love and et al. that is this true and not farce? I know its true but then I suspect my own traitor heart..at times I just need to reassure myself..quite a lot of turbulence. Hope it clears it self soon.

    And glad you gave your honest feedback :)

    Take care,
    Fatima

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  11. @Fatima
    Leave it on time, and rest your mind...you shall be out of it soon...its up to you, to be honest...you have to accept the answers, its when our so called heart refuses to do so, it disturbs the equilibrium in us...
    i know it sounds quite simple, but, that is life, the most simplest of things are the most difficult to achieve...
    And rest assured, my comments would always be honest, if otherwise, i would prefer the silence...
    :)

    Take care,

    The Silhouette...

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  12. @ Vivek: Yeah quite a thought provoking subject! yet the most magical of all. Glad that you could make out so much out of such a small post of mine.

    Glad you liked it and gave your comments.

    Take Care,
    Fatima

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  13. @ Vaisakhi: haha...I knw the expressions on your face whilst you mite be reading this :D

    hmm...yeah varsha I can even write factual not always imaginary stuff. Actually this thing was bugging me right from 12th std...friends n all you know that rite ;)

    Glad you liked it !

    Take Care,
    Fatima

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  14. @ The Silhouette: I guess yeah its better to leave it on time, and about the confusion...its not confusion,I guess you know what love can do to a person :) And my heart just says one thing...love unconditionally and leave the rest to god and time ! Too philosophical but true to not be avoided.

    Glad you replied back to me...

    Take Care,
    Fatima

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  15. Makes so much of sense.. specially where u pointed out how can one so easily move on...
    Seriously...once u love somebody..it always stays on..!

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  16. Hi there,
    You have a nice blog. Found this post on writers' lounge. I suggest you join Blogjunta or nominate your blog there for editor's choice and other stuff. You will get more readers :)
    i'll pass on this blog info to my friends as well..
    Do visit my blog sometime

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  17. @ Arundhati: There was a reason I pointed that out coz I'm still clueless how people achieve all that in such a small span of time, it feels as if they never loved..come to think of it; it really does make a lot of sense.

    Glad you commented..coz it means somewhere you are coming back from where you had headed sometime back..glad to see my Aru back :)

    Take Care,
    Fatima

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  18. @ Md. Muddassir Shah: Well first off thanks a lot for visiting my blog and commenting too!

    And thanks a lot for liking my blog too...

    About what you've said I'll surely give it a try thanks a lot for the info, and I surely visit your blog too.

    Take Care,
    Fatima

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  19. Love is not just talking in words hanging in the balcony secluded from your peer group and hunting for a place where no one would eavesdrop on your conversation.
    Love is something that grows mature as we get along and grows deeper as we get to know each other. Understanding is what comes along with it.
    Well I think this would be my idea of love.
    But its becoming a rarity these days.
    There was a message that a friend of mine sent to me: Boys and girls nowadays fall in love due to misunderstanding and then break up when they start to understand each other and their fault.

    Cheers,
    Blasphemous Aesthete

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  20. @ Blasphemous Aesthete: I agree with you and that's the reason for this post..I tried not to let the vagueness creep in it and let my views out clearly but maybe some traces of it were left!

    Glad to hear that there are still people who believe in the purity of love that comes with understanding and time...

    And yes the message is too apt for the current scenario!

    Take Care,
    Fatima

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  21. Hey...Fatima...What you wrote is absolutely right...Even I have many friends who take love as time pass....And I just think..like the way you think in this post..
    Very nicely written...

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  22. My dear, that was so good!
    I too feel same
    hence stay away from love and all, for me Love is more of emotional, spiritual attachment and not just physical attraction..
    You said it so nicely yaar...
    Each and every word is right
    Now people take it so casually, no one goes to understand it deeply!
    Its all just physical now a days.. It cant be called " Love"
    Love is something deep, where you dont get all happiness, its about pain too...
    Its full of emotions and sentiments!!!
    I just loved your post!
    Very well said and wrote

    Take care!

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  23. @ Valli: Yeah there are many people now-a-days who believe in all this but nevertheless not everyone is like that :)

    Glad to hear you too believe that way and also that you liked it!

    Take Care,
    Fatima

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  24. @ Samidha: Hey glad to see you here Sami! Hey all this is there doesn't mean you stay away from love...I had or still have that approach but doesn't mean I don't believe in it...

    But love is not always pain also there is pleasure in that pain too or rather that's what I feel..

    Glad you liked it dear :)

    Take Care,
    Fatima

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